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To: Secretary of State, the Rt Hon Amber Rudd

Help us stop the government from splitting our family up

UPDATE: We won! 15/07/17

Yesterday, Carlos and I went before a court judge to determine if we could stay here together in the UK. It was a strange morning as we prepared to fight for our right to be a family here!

But it is with a huge smile that I can report that the judge overturned the Home Office's refusal to allow us to be a family and within less than 30 minutes not only had we finished his session but he asked Carlos to return to his seat and told him there and then that he would grant him Right to Remain!!!!!! Sanity, compassion and humanity prevailed yesterday :)

Help us stop the government from splitting our family up



Why is this important?

We have to go before a judge on the 14th July to fight to keep our family together due to cruel immigration rules that threaten to split our family up. We have to submit lots of paperwork to support our case and justify why we should be allowed to remain together as a family here in the UK. As part of that submission we would dearly love to show them how many people do NOT support this treatment of genuine, loving families and indeed, who cannot understand the logic of splitting up a family.

A 16mth old baby's future and birthright at stake..

On the 28th June, a few days after Brexit, the sanctity of my family was seriously put under threat when we received notice from the Home Office that Carlos, my husband who is an Ecuadorian born citizen, was refused the right to remain in the UK with me, his British wife and our British son, Thomas, who was only 6 months old.

The ripple effect of this inhumane decision has been profound – the mental, emotional, physical and financial impact on us has been something that no family should be put through. When we should have been enjoying these first precious moments as a new family, we have been living a life of uncertainty and despair - and going deeper and deeper into debt. What is tragic about this is that we are not the only ones – there are thousands like us living the same nightmare every day.

Forced to go to court to fight to keep our family together

A year on and we have only just received a court date to go before a judge to fight the right to keep my family together here in the UK and we would love your support in asking the Rt Hon Rudd to see reason in this madness and overturn this decision and save taxpayers money on a costly court hearing.

With Carlos unable to work - because immigration rules forbid Carlos to work, study or even volunteer - he is now Thomas’s main carer and their bond is very strong – and it would be extraordinarily cruel to tear them apart. Our 16-month old Thomas needs his daddy more than ever. I have gone back to work but on a basic salary, that barely covers basic/ essential living costs, we have spent all the savings and credit available that we had just to get through the last 16 months. Thomas and I are British and we want to be allowed to live here with all the freedom of choice a normal family has. As parents, Carlos and I would like to provide for our son as any normal family would be able to.

A genuine family who wanted to raise Thomas in a country where he had access to basic human rights such as healthcare and a decent education, we had the rug pulled out from under us that day. They had decided that Carlos could go back to Ecuador, I could go back to full time work and my parents could look after Thomas – with no regard for our child’s welfare and what that really meant for Thomas and us in reality.

In the real world, it meant a 6-month old baby would lose his daddy,a father would lose his son and a family would be forced to spend a MINIMUM of a year apart - as we tried to fulfil the minimum requirements with no guarantee at the end that it would be successful. Ecuador is a developing country where healthcare and education costs are at a premium and if we were forced to move there Thomas would lose his right to a good education and a better future.

If we don't protect the sanctity of our family what else do we have?

“It is estimated that at least 15,000 children have been affected by changes to the financial requirements of the Immigration Rules implemented in 2012. Children, most of whom are British citizens, are suffering distress and anxiety as a result of separation from a parent. This is compounded by the overall stress, anxiety and practical difficulties faced by the family unit.
The Children's Commissioner Report, Family Friendly 2015

This February, a Supreme Court hearing has ruled that the government's lack of due consideration for the welfare of any children in family migration cases has been unlawful and have now been told to review this aspect of the application process. Although it maintained the minimum financial requirement of £18,600 was lawful, how this figure was achieved for the application (that the whole amount had to be earned by the UK partner) was unlawful and also needed reviewing.

In our case, a person in an office was deciding the future of my son who they had never met. It seemed to us that instead of safeguarding the family unit, our Government seems to be using families like ours to bring down net migration figures and this is morally reprehensible. Ministers talk of protecting taxpayers and the benefits system in a bid to justify their actions yet all my husband has wanted to do is work – doing anything – to pay into the economy and provide for his family which is a basic human right and a basic human need.

United Colours of Great Britain

Great Britain has a long history of travelling overseas – and colonising many countries all over the world - enjoying the benefits of that presence in foreign lands and it seems somewhat ironic that our government is imposing highly restrictive immigration rules on families born out of this freedom of movement. In a nation that celebrates multiculturalism and talks about the important role of the family unit on the well-being of our children – the future generation - we are now faced with our son having his father callously torn away from him in the name of keeping net migration figures down.

Please sign our petition and help us secure our family's future

We are also crowdfunding to raise the funds to pay for our legal fees as due to our situation we can no longer afford them. If you wish to donate please go to:

Reasons for signing

  • Because I believe that the UK is, or has to be, better than this.
  • My family would be in just this position in 2017, the policies were arcane and nonsensical in 1994 but not as vitriolic in their application as this. My 'alien' husband is now a well regarded and inspirational teacher.


2017-07-17 12:09:22 +0100

Petition is successful with 1,382 signatures

2017-04-27 09:28:46 +0100

Hi lovely supporters

Due to the elections in June, this petition may well change its focus to another MP - but of course I will keep you updated with this. You never know, the Conservative government who came up with these cruel rules may find themselves replaced and who knows what will happen.

In a world that seems to be coming more and more separatist when we need to come together the most, we need governments who have our interests at heart - not their own

2017-04-25 22:00:41 +0100

The government have hiked up family migration fees again - and other visas fees see barely any change. The government's work is not an easy one - but they crossed the line the moment they used innocent families to help bring down migration figures and make a profit from it in the process. It is not - and can never be - acceptable to tear families up in the name of immigration and it is unscrupulous behaviour when a government that makes a profit out of tearing innocent families up. How is this allowed to happen?

2017-04-13 21:39:14 +0100

1,000 signatures reached

2017-04-13 16:38:42 +0100

If you missed our short film we made please check out

2017-04-12 14:40:03 +0100

I am organising a Kids March and need your help. If you are a family with children affected by these rules or someone you know is affected by these rules and have children please can you spread the word that I am organising a march so that our children can raise their heads and say 'No more ruining our futures and our families'. The government are affecting our children's future because of these immigration rules and it must STOP.

Anyone interested in getting involved - as a 'marcher' or helping in the march in general please contact me at [email protected]

Thank you so much for your support
Caroline, Carlos and Thomas

2017-04-12 14:38:18 +0100

I would like to say a special thank you to all of you who have posted a message of support to our petition. I am so sorry for those of you who are going through the same as us - some of you don't even have the 'luxury' of being together as you should be. It breaks my heart that you are all being put through that - and more so that our children are put in such a negatively impacting situation. What humane government would willingly separate genuine families JUST TO MAKE AN IMMIGRATION EXAMPLE OF US???? It defies humanity, sense and reason. And it is these people who profess to have our best interests at heart as a nation. What nation supports splitting the sanctity of a family?

Thank you all so much again for your kind words and your support

Caroline, Carlos and Thomas

2017-04-07 11:40:22 +0100

To all our supporters - thank you. Please find below the film we had made. We have made it to create awareness of this dreadful situation and we are also using it to help us crowdfund much needed legal fees that we can no longer afford due to the financial impact of this decision on our finances. It is awful to have to ask for financial help - it's something I never imagined ever having to do - but here we are..and needs must.

Please watch and share this film and if you wish to donate please do so at

Many thanks for your compassion and understanding
Caroline, Carlos and Thomas

2017-04-07 11:37:13 +0100

2017-04-03 16:56:36 +0100

Thank you all for your signatures of support and for the messages you have left. We will be uploading a film this week highlighting this horrendous situation - there are people behind the numbers and the government needs to see that. Babies need their daddies and daddies need their babies. It is an outrageous use of immigration control and needs to be stopped.

Thank you

2017-04-03 16:23:19 +0100

2017-04-03 12:49:31 +0100

So many precious moments being threatened by horrendous immigration rules

2017-04-03 12:48:49 +0100

2017-03-29 17:57:40 +0100

500 signatures reached

2017-03-23 14:02:48 +0000

Hi everyone. Thank you so much for all your signatures and kindness. We have just signed a solicitor who is very experienced in Immigration Law so we now feel safe in her hands. She has been very kind, open and understanding and is, more importantly, being positive about our case and the situation we have found ourselves in.

We are making a film this weekend to promote our case and to show the human side of these devastating rules so please do keep an eye out here and I will post as soon as it is edited and ready. Then I would love you to share it and help us reach our 100,000 goal!!! Only a few more to go hahaha.

Thank you again
Caroline, Carlos and Thomas

2017-03-20 13:14:09 +0000

We have hit over 100 signatures already!!

Thank you all so much for your compassion and understanding. If you have not done so already please share this campaign with family and friends. With Brexit looming who knows how many other families will find themselves in the same situation if our government does not guarantee security to our EU community

2017-03-20 12:27:27 +0000

100 signatures reached

2017-03-20 07:57:28 +0000

50 signatures reached

2017-03-20 01:37:07 +0000

25 signatures reached

2017-03-19 22:54:27 +0000

10 signatures reached